Posted by Sheshisown on April 17, 2008 at 03:06:14:
In Reply to: Flee Fornication and Friar Fraud posted by Rx on April 16, 2008 at 20:29:01:
Kelly,
I pray you will hear me but once more. I have no intent whatever to bring anything here but a good word. Im afraid doing argument classes at 55 years old, and struggling with menopausal emotions, can sometimes cause me to exaggerate and catch unsuspecting people in my personal storms. I simply did not recognise how important this issue is to you personally.
I hope to take any tarnish I may have caused from your reputation with this post. Let me say first—that thou I made references to the selfish desires of (I believe I phrased it) the “male” could be the reason a man might chose to opt for Polygamy. I was not, and would not, assume this to be YOUR desire, and I think your long patience in waiting for a wife should be evidence that your motive is pure. Many of the people here likely know this well enuf already about you. Besides, the fact that you have searched the scriptures for a clear a revelation to your situation and fully abide by what God has shown you—is another obvious reason why—thou we may not agree with you—we all certainly respect your stand.
On hearing the revelation of your position, and seeing that your scriptural stance opens the door for you to marry again—I must say this certainly shines a light into our discussions. I have actually been praying for some time, that the Lord would help you reconcile your understanding of joining—so that you could still marry. My way of serving Jesus and others here on PS is to speak to the Lord about the things you all share.
Here is the dilemma I think. Certainly there are ladies who would be willing—yet which of these, never divorced, or widowed, or never married and virgins would desire to marry a man who believes God may call him to marry another wife while he is married to her? Please—keep in mind that, I also recognize that this may not be what God is calling YOU to do—the hitch comes with the possibility alone in ANY man who commits to keep himself for her alone on the wedding day.
Sorry, I guess in these matters I am a pragmatist, but (I think) Im still enuf older than you to provide you with some insight about the feminine reason for siding against polygamy, along with their pastors. You are looking for a rare young lady indeed if this is the case. I know a number of marriageable gals, even by your Biblical standards, in our fellowship that would be willing to marry a man who holds such a high regard for the Word and the commitment of marriage. Most of them seek a word from the Lord for whom they ought to marry of course. Still, these young women—(at least for the most part) do not desire and would even be fearful of a polygamous relationship. That was the point I was trying, without success, to make earlier. I am not at all amazed that the people of God have bought into the idea that polygamy is a sin, or that joining is not marriage.
Maybe this is a selfish and sinful agenda, but as you noted—who hears of the benefits of polygamy in any church sermon? What are the benefits to a woman? Why would God still deem it necessary? Im sure many would even wonder, what doctrine a pastor held who would perform polygamous marriages. The “reservations” are all weighed on the other side as Im sure you are aware.
There is hope remaining for men who believe as you do.
I have found that those who love the word of God find it to be increasingly pervasive in their lives,
if,
as you say this doctrine is certainly true,
others (including women) will come to the knowledge of this truth in time.
If the “times” are so evil that this is not a reality generally,
God certainly is not unable even in that climate to perform His will.
Otherwise,
I really cannot see why it would matter to you what "the church" decides regarding this issue,
especially since you do not regard their edicts that are put forth as valid.
In any case, in a more sane, and less argumentative frame of mind I hope this clears up our trial, and you are able to make peace with this sister.
May our Father in Heaven fulfill your heart’s desire that is planted in His Word.
In Jesus,
bonnie